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Month Nine

2014 October 12
by Becky

Holy cow, month nine of pregnancy is no joke.

I’m starting to think my body was not cut out for this as things are getting unbearable interesting around here.

My biggest complaint is still the ribs…sitting is almost impossible. The next biggest predicament is my ridiculously swollen feet/ankles/calfs. I can’t wear socks without their indentations staying in my legs for a whole day after their removal, and the only shoes that fit are my flip flops or Uggs. Getting said shoes ON takes several breaks, lots of grunting, and follow up trip to the bathroom.


I still can’t get over the fact that this baby is at least a pound bigger than Ethan was when we BROUGHT HIM HOME and yet this one is still happily floating in utero. My belly is less round then it is an exact outline of the scrunched up baby, clear protrusions where his little legs, butt, and shoulders are positioned.

As you can probably tell from my lack of posting, my motivation is in the dumpster and even when I do get “inspired,” I’m limited in my comfortable computer-working positions. Right now laying in bed propped up with no less than five pillows AND a body pillow which gets me about an hour of bearable writing/editing/project time before the cramps set in from being on my back…or till I have to pee which requires a resettling of the whole scenario.


Ah motivation. I’m in this ridiculous limbo where one minute I tell myself,
“You’re only 36 weeks, there’s plenty of time left to get all these projects you want done done!”

and then I immediately contradict myself by saying,
“I’ve been having contractions all day, this kid could be here any minute.”

Fueling my procrastination while stressing myself out is always good.

So what are my all-important “projects”? In addition to the every day things, I’ve added:

The Nursery
OMG I hate even walking into the nursery. Not trying to be Debby Downer here, but seriously, we are at the swirling vortex of finishing touches stage that no one can stand. There are about four tiny things I need to do to finish this tiny room and every time I go to do one, it a) doesn’t work, b) screws up something else that then needs to go on the list to be fixed, or c) needs a little creativity to get done…creativity I cannot eek from my baby-brain.

For instance, the cute ceramic branch hooks I bought at Urban Outfitters a year ago and never hung in Ethan’s room were going to be a perfect addition to our changing table closet area. I stupidly decided to go for it and hang them on the plaster/masonry wall only to discover the backing on the hooks is completely worthless in it’s construction, making the hooks terribly insecure and therefore resulting in three dusty holes in my wall. Hooks = trash can. I ordered some simple ones on Amazon to hang next week when they arrive.

And our curtains? I found a miracle sale on 108″ white canvas curtains at West Elm—$30 a panel!—but when I washed them to remove the severe packaging wrinkles, they came out a shrunken resemblance of what they once were. One was almost 6″ shorter! Sure WE replaced them immediately but it set me back a week on yet another easy project and now I’m dealing with adding black out backing to the panels…easy but just time consuming. Them curtains are HUGE and tough to manage through my sewing machine.

I also had to re-stabilize these floating shelves from Lowes (I do NOT recommend), finally settle on this totally adorable pouf from CB2, order this soft rug that doesn’t have a pattern to overwhelm the space, and get a minute to sew up a version of this embroidery floss canvas…it turned out SO cute and took very little time. Oh and we are still missing door hardware.


It’s coming together. Once those curtains are up, it’s final-photo-blog-post-city baby.

Ethan’s Baby Book
I made a huge, huge mistake. Instead of just settling for a pre-made baby book, I decided to do a custom-designed version of Ethan’s first year to more easily use my digital pictures. Custom = never being happy with anything and always coming up with newer and better design ideas, making the project take FOREVER. I’m already four years late. I let it slide because I knew I had the blog to fall back on, a month-by-month look at Ethan I could call up with a few key strokes. But I’m determined to get this book printed for him before Peanut #2 arrives. It’s almost there.


Yearly Video
Every year I take hundreds of video clips of Ethan and our family to assemble into a yearly video (here’s years One, Two, and Three). Till now it’s been pretty easy because they’ve been very Ethan-centric, he’s the main focus. After this year it’s going to be hard to make a video that’s under 2 hours long properly highlighting two kids’ lives via iMovie. SO you’d think my easy year video is started, right? Nope. I’ve got an idea on the music and that’s it.  I’m committing to starting this project tonight, going through my video files and dumping them into iMovie, starting a semblance of an outline, and just moving forward. The fear of having to do all this after baby arrives should be fire enough, but it clearly isn’t.

Things getting us through include.

School. The best decision we made was having Ethan in school three days a week this year. He LOVES school and his teachers and even takes a nap there so he can scream to me across the room at pick up, “MOM! I TOOK A NAP TODAY!!!”

Playgrounds and cool weather. Standing is pretty good for me, so taking Ethan to an awesome playground several times a week, meeting up with a buddy or two, and letting him burn energy is a great activity for us. I talked about Wilmore Park on the blog a while back but we also love Lindenwood Park, Tower Grove Park, Faust Park, MILF DeMun Park, and several others.

Playroom and my Fischer Price tape recorder. We turned our third floor into a play room last year, all excited for some independent play time for Ethan. It houses his kitchen, trains, legos, blocks, race track, tent, and tons of other toys. Finally, FINALLY he’s starting to love it. His ultimate favorite thing is going up there to play and listen to his “dinosaur tape” on my old tape recorder. 30 years old and still working like a champ! My parents saved it and about 20 cassette tapes, one of which is a “Little Thinker.” It’s this dramatic book-on-tape type set up where kids take an imaginary journey to dinosaur time. The actors paint very vivid pictures of running from dinosaurs, getting stuck in quick sand, and feeling an earthquake. Ethan is totally obsessed and we’ve noticed his imagination skills have really taken off lately, most likely due to this tape. I’ve looked around for more of these tapes with no luck, may have to try some digital audio books next!

Fischer Price Vintage Tape Recorder

Ethan’s age. This is a big one. Ethan is such a good kid. Sure I go a little crazy arguing with him over some simple task at least once a day, but for the most part he is making life as a very pregnant lady so incredibly easy. He never fights us on nap or bed time, is very flexible about going places and finding things to entertain ourselves. He doesn’t make much of a mess and can do lots of things himself (although sometimes we get a lot of “I can’t” and have to provide lots of encouragement to get him to try). As much as we though we wanted them closer, a four year gap is going to be incredible.

He’s going to be the best big brother.

So I’ll just be here, getting more enormous by the minute, making too much food at dinner so we have some to freeze for down the road, forcing myself to accomplish things each day while rewarding myself with a daily uniform of sweat pants, waiting for this kid to make his appearance.

6 Responses
  1. Jenn O'Meara permalink
    October 13, 2014

    I stumbled across your website, (3times in a row, too funny) while doing my usual diy, pinterest, apartment therapy website browsing. I found it funny how you and I were very similar, I am 36 weeks prego with my third, I love all things decorating, and even though I live in Palmer Alaska I was born in St Louis. Most of family still live in and around the area, and I do miss it every time I read one of your posts.
    I wish you luck on your last month, i too am over it myself having just given up trying to be attractive or productive, pretty much let my 3 year old watch too much PBS but we at are doing at least one thing a day, I swear it is all i can bear with the demands of a first grader who will turn 7 on halloween, poor dude he deserves so much more of my time and energy as well. Sigh
    I do love your posts on the manly diy play kitchen and how you turned that bathroom of yours into something awesome from something plain. Thanks for posting.

    • Becky permalink*
      October 15, 2014

      Hi Jenn! Thanks for your sweet comment! It does sound like we have a lot in common. I’m feeling the major mom guilt about being so distracted too, but Ethan doesn’t seem to be affected by it, thank goodness. Good luck in your last month too! Wow, #3. You are super mom.

  2. October 14, 2014

    Ethan is so grown up!!!! I kept that tape recorder my grandchildren could play with it and enjoy it as much as you did. Didn’t realize how much technology would advance! Amazed he loves it so much. Yeah!

  3. Linda Johnson permalink
    October 15, 2014

    URGH!! I remember those last days of pregnancy with Stu. I was huge and swollen and late.
    Being comfortable was not an option!! You look great and I can tell the baby is starting to drop. Before you know it he will be here!!

    Ethan will be the best big brother! He is so creative and smart and a joy to be around.
    Cannot wait to see him and his brother.

  4. October 15, 2014

    This is very exciting! That last month is no joke. I actually took the LEED AP exam for work at 35.5 weeks pregnant. And M took two of the nine ARE exams that same month (there used to be nine, now there are “just” seven, thank goodness). We would put E to bed and study and I remember thinking how stupid I was to try and tackle something like that after working all day. Somehow I managed to pass, but it was a lot of work to trick my pregnancy brain into thinking that it could retain any amount of information beyond where the nearest bathroom was.

    I just mention that because I met a woman at the testing center on Monday who was 35.5 weeks pregnant and taking a five hour test. She was on her third bathroom break, but was still smiling. It was fun (and frightening) to remember back five years ago and being in the same place.

    Not too long now!
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    • Becky permalink*
      October 21, 2014

      I honestly don’t know how you did it then or do it now…I would be so screwed if I needed to take any sort of test right now. Can’t wait till you get all this testing behind you. And I can’t wait till this dude is on the outside!

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