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Our Big Baby News

2014 May 12
by Becky

First off, thank you to everyone who reached out to tell us congratulations…while this whole first trimester has been very emotional and exciting, last week topped the charts. Some of the emails had me in tearsthe support has been overwhelming, to say the least.

Baby news is always exciting, seeing that little plus sign on the test exhilarating and shock-inducing. I vividly remember the test that told us Ethan was coming…I don’t think I stopped smiling for days. I stupidly took it in the morning right after Stu had left for work and had to sit at my desk all day, trying to concentrate while absolutely bursting with happiness, but wanting to tell him in person. And that was after trying for only a couple months.

This baby took a bit longer.

I promise to get into the details of our secondary infertility (yup, it’s a thing and is very common) and what we did to battle it, but not today. But for now, let’s just say we are MORE than ready for this kid and are probably the most impatient we’ve ever been to get the ball rolling and belly growing.

Speaking of belly…

15WeekBellyPic

They aren’t kidding about the second kid showing up sooner.

I don’t remember wearing maternity clothes until around week 18 or so last time. This time? Week 12. I took one look at my regular shorts, tossed them aside and grabbed the super comfy maternity pair I’d picked up at Gap. Week 13 I went through the tub-o-maternity clothes only to find most of it was work-related. I worked full time during my last pregnancy and while our office was very casual, the clothes still aren’t all that helpful because this time I’ll actually be outside during the hot summer days, not sitting behind a desk in the A/C.

Oh joy, I get to put on a swimming suit while pregnant.

So we’ve had THREE ultrasounds, the extra one was due to our fertility jazz—you get extra ultrasounds when you have stubborn eggs. And I can’t help but feel like we’re seeing more sooner…are ultrasounds that much better then they were four years ago?

9WeekUltrasound

13weekultrasound

Since everyone knows about our super fun romp through the NICU three and half years ago, I’ve been asked the following questions A LOT:

1. Are the doctors worried I’ll have another preemie?

Yep. There’s really no specific reason to be worried since they don’t know why Ethan was born so early, but because I’ve had one pre-term babe there is a chance I’ll have another. But everyone is on top of it this time. I’ll have more appointments sooner and any symptoms (like the swelling I had last time) will be taken more seriously.

2. Is there anything docs can do to prevent pre-term labor?

Kind of. The “treatment” for this sort of thing is progesterone. Starting next week I’ll be getting a shot in the hip every week. Not fun, but studies show this treatment can reduce the risk of pre-term labor significantly and I’ll do pretty much anything to keep this baby cookin’ a little longer. August 31 will mark 31 weeks 4 days, the gestation day I went into labor with Ethan. We’ll be breathing a lot easier once that date has come and gone. We’re shooting for a minimum of 34 weeks, which is when babies have the suck/swallow/breathe function figured out, meaning they are more likely able to eat on their own instead of through a feeding tube like Ethan did for what seemed like ages.

And, totally unrelated to pre-term birth…

3. Is Ethan is excited to be a big brother?

Yes! He’s watched about 30 of my friends have babies in the past two years and he’s had the opportunity to get over his mommy jealousy. He used to get pretty upset when I held friend’s babies, crying and begging to sit in my lap. But gradually he got used to it and now is very interested in helping. We watched my friend’s one year old the other day and Ethan was checking the video monitor while Eli napped, watched me change his diaper, and was stoked to help give a bottle. He talks about the new baby often and pays extra attention to my belly, telling me “Mom, that baby is growing!” quite frequently. He flip-flops about wanting a brother or sister but understands we don’t get to choose.

Most of my friends are betting on a girl. I go back and forth. We shall see in about six more weeks!

Yes, we are finding out the gender, we aren’t the “we want to be surprised” people. That’s nuts.

I’m very nervous about tackling two kids at once, especially with Stu’s travel schedule, but know it will all be fine once the new one arrives…at least that’s what I keep telling myself. I’m just hoping for a run-of-the-mill delivery this time, no drama! And I can’t wait to get started on the new nursery…we shall be starting very soon on construction, but no decor will happen till we know dude or dudette, this nursery will not be gender neutral.

Thank you again for all the kind words and support! I can’t wait to share even more personal information out here than usual through the next six months.

12 Responses leave one →
  1. May 13, 2014

    I’m excited for you! I’m also terrified about having two kids myself…
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  2. Wuselbibi permalink
    May 13, 2014

    I´m still so overwhelmed! Thanks a lot for answering those questions, which I didn´t dare to ask ´cause I feared being too nosy ;-)
    Looking forward to hear more news of peanut nr. 2! aaaah, and ultrasound-pictures… and your new baby room – not gender-neutral sounds great!

    And don´t be afraid about having two kids. Second kids are very cooperative, and, never has it been more true (truer? not sure what´s right?): we are growing with our tasks. I don´t know if that is common to say in the US, in Germany it´s quite well known.
    Many greetings and all the best!
    Maria

    • Becky permalink*
      May 13, 2014

      Never too nosy! And loved your email and family pics, you guys are adorable. I don’t think that is a common phrase in the US but I like it!! Makes perfect sense.

  3. Linda Johnson permalink
    May 13, 2014

    So excited for the new baby and my third grandchild. Ethan will be a great big brother.

    I cannot wait to meet him or her…

  4. May 13, 2014

    Congrats!! Way to go on doing the progesterone shots. One of the few things out there that actually works to prevent preterm labor, yay!!
    I think it is official that every mommy blogger I frequent is now knocked up, which is hilarious that the timing has worked out this way. I am going to vicariously live through all of your pregnancies now ;) way to go!
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    • Becky permalink*
      May 13, 2014

      So glad you are saying that Jen, you would know about this stuff after all! I just hope it works with me. I’ve been living vicariously through your at-home schooling for forever now, so I guess we’ll be even :)

  5. Holly permalink
    May 13, 2014

    Hi there. My mom said you posted a picture of yourself so I had to come look. :) You are certainly an adorable pregnant person!! I am very excited for you guys!! Don’t worry too much about having 2 kids, it all works out.

    • Becky permalink*
      May 13, 2014

      Thanks Holly! We’ll be in a race to the finish! So fun.

  6. Shannon permalink
    May 13, 2014

    Becky,
    You look fantastic!!! Such a cute bump! Thanks for posting the answers to those questions, as I too was wondering but didn’t want to be nosy :) Incredibly happy for the three of you. Ethan is going to be the BEST big brother!

    I’m often single-mommin’ it with two kids due to hub’s travel schedule (plus he doesn’t get home until about 8 on normal nights). You’ll adjust as you go along and find what works for you. You might have to pick your battles with your oldest, but just remember that’s ok too!

    Can’t wait to follow along on this journey through your blog!
    Big hugs!
    Shannon

    • Becky permalink*
      May 13, 2014

      Thanks Shannon! And really, haven’t I proved that NO question is off limits? I’ll give you TMI any day of the week. :) Your boys are getting SO big SO fast…love seeing all the Instagram pics.

  7. Kristan permalink
    May 13, 2014

    You are looking fabulous darling!! Don’t be afraid of two kids, as long as you can handle a little chaos and go with the flow you’ll be fine! We are still figuring out how to really master it :)

  8. Jenny P. permalink
    May 15, 2014

    Congrats on the wonderful news Becky! We’re thinking about expanding our family soon so it’ll be fun to follow along. I hope the progesterone shots work for you! And I personally love reading your stories, never TMI!

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